The POTATO group

Arts Day

This weekend it is the POTATO arts day and several members are looking to attend with lots of creativity. We are a group that physically meets up as well as using our facebook and conferences plus individual face to face times.

It’s on the 24th of  June 2017 in the Sheffield area. There are a few spaces left if you are a member and would like to go. Just email us

Check out our website over the next couple of weeks to see photos.

Bamboo scaffolding


Welcome to this months trilogy of Blog pieces all about the wonderful founder member from our group taking her TAT (Traumatised adopted teen) away on an amazing break together.

Hugely brave and funny, this Blog is an exciting read. In awe of this members bravery and her drive to keep going.

Looking forward to reading part 2 and 3 over the next couple of weeks.

Relationships blog

This blog piece is a fascinating insight into life of a member who has a changing reality of relationships. 

We understand the separation rate in adoption is similar to that of parents with children who have additional needs. 

But there are a few amazing individuals who have healed, moved on and explored having a relationship. Plus the dating side can be great fun!

This weeks blog is all about this. It’s a brave thing to have written. 

Blog Buster!

Thank you all for your warm support of our blog pieces. Our website traffic has increased and we have been getting lots of positive feedback.

The Adoption Social and The Open Nest have joined us in this venture. Please do check their websites for BLOG pieces and other information of interest to adoptive parents of traumatised young people.


Independence Day!

Well, not quite as it seems. More….Independence Day with frills….

POTATO group member parent writes about their incredible experiences of adoptive parenting and the wonderful experiences of encouraging and equipping their vulnerable young adult to move out.

YES! It can be done and there are some EXCELLENT tips in this Blog piece for parents looking ahead to moving our TATs (Traumatised Adopted Teenagers) on in a positive way.

Moving Home a DIY approach

Mental Health and staying in.

This blog piece is by a member of our group who has extensive experience of Mental Health issues within the family made up of adopted young people.

Fascinating insight into how it is to try and get adequate and appropriate let alone timely provision for them has been a long road.

This piece will help parents on a similiar track, but also help those who have been there make sense of some of their experiences.

Adoption social Mental Health inpatientbed search

Transference and an adoptive parent.

This week we have a blog post written by a group member who has experienced transference, in relation to her teenage daughters.

We have had a lot of positive feed back from the first blog post in association with The Adoption Social and the Open Nest. This piece the next in the series from The POTATO group. 

There’s a lot of learning in here, not only personal experience of one member. 

Transference Blog Piece.

New venture with a BLOG.


Good afternoon everyone.

We are very excited to announce that we have begun a regular weekly blog of: articles, reflections, blog diaries and information contributed by our members. This is mostly to families who are host to young people who have had early trauma and been adopted and their friends.

Every week we will write a piece for publication with The Adoption Social in association with The Open Nest.

Our first blog piece is by our Chair, June. She has written a thought provoking and reaction-giving article, particularly in reference to the recent Radio 4- Justice McFarlane piece. She challenges the language that social care and other organisations use when referring to us adopters, our young people and our circumstances.

We would be really interested to see what you think. By all means comment in the box below, or email us

Is there something you would like to see written about? Anything you want to submit?

If you are a member, come and discuss it with us on our Facebook group, or you can always Tweet us @thePOTATOgroup.


Time out! It’s Mother’s Day

As Mothers Day can cause a lot of upset for families with traumatised adoptees in them we have decided to have a TIME OUT event. The adoptee might be making you upset, grumpy and hopeless. You have been firmly naughty stepped for being called MUM. 
So as the mum’s who are on the naughty step, we encourage you to disobediently have a lovely treat whatever your young persons challenges may be.
This event has to be a time for Mum to do what SHE chooses for at least 30 minutes (ideally an hour). If your adopted person isn’t in contact with your family, please take some extra time out. 

Including the ever popular ideas of drinking, eating and erm, drinking and eating. Here are some other ideas:

Just take a selfie or picture of what activities you’ve chosen for your TIME OUT.

Introducing the 2016 AGM.

img_9109Its lunchtime and before you tuck into your sandwiches, pop an email across to getting your name down for our annual meeting. We will email you with all the details of the day we cannot put here for security reasons.

If you are going to Birmingham for the adoptionuk conference on the 19th of November 2016 maybe book another night in the hotel and come along in the morning to our mini conference.

On Sunday the 20th of November, from 9 until 1, you’ll hear all about what POTATO group do and what sorts of things we want to aim for in the year to come.

If you are a member already you can come along for free and you get to vote. Information about the steering committee volunteer positions can be sent to you on request.  To become a member email us, fill in the membership form and pay the annual £10.

We would like to welcome as many members as possible on the day but if you have a question or idea and cannot attend, please do email us between now and the 18th November 2016.

Our whole group want you to feel as included as possible and that your thoughts, ideas and experiences matter so if you can possibly attend it would be fantastic to see you.