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Child to Parent Abuse – UK National Study Day

A Potato members view given as a Presentation to a UK national study day on child-to-parent abuse  on 15 November 2021 Child to parent violence and abuse across the lifespan A parent’s perspective: what parents know, what parents struggle with,…

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Strengthening Families – All-Party Parliamentary Group for Adoption & Permanence, The Care Review, The Spending Review – Is any of it enough?

The long awaited APPGAP report relating to adoption and permanence has now been published. It’s title is “Strengthening Families: Improving Stability for Adopted Children”. Download the APPGAP report The report states: – “This inquiry was conducted to feed into the…

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Mindfulness as an antidote to stress

Reproduced by kind permission of Simone Harch who runs hiddenvictims.co.uk Caring for a child who has experienced early life adversity can be stressful in many ways.    Adoptive parents who I interviewed experienced high levels of stress through being unprepared…

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Trauma damage to the brain

After a difficult week one of our members , Louise , wrote this: – “Just going to leave this here because I know many of you are, or have been, in this situation: A brain which has been severely traumatised…

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I’m Tired…

Potato Members have recently been attending a variety of online events talking about CPV (Child to Parent Violence), Attachment and The Care Review. The words of a potato member demonstrate clearly how many of our members feel so misunderstood when…

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Trauma Inspired Poetry

There are some of our members who are not only adopters but also Special Guardians. The Potato Group has been given permission to publish a poem written by Dawn Henderson, a Special Guardian kinship carer for her nephew. Some of…

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Regulation and the Adoptive Parent

A very interesting blog piece around regulation. We have been kindly been given permission to post it here. If you would like to visit the blog you can find it at : http://www.hiddenvictims.co.uk Regulation and the Adoptive Parent Emotional regulation…

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How Can A Potato Make A Difference?

Being an adopter faced with the complexity and difficulties of parenting our tats through the teenage years and beyond, we are held back by three “P’s” Personalisation Thinking it’s all our fault – – it isn’t, even though constantly being…

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Don’t judge until you’ve walked a mile in my shoes

One of our members recently had a conversation with a friend which left her struggling. “My son is making some difficult choices this year, that I don’t approve of, but I do still love him and we still support him…

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Adoptive Parent’s Poem

This moving piece of poetry was written by a member. It clearly shows the struggle and heartbreak that many adoptive parents experience, especially when dealing with those who are supposedly there to help us.

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