The POTATO group
Parents Of Traumatised Adopted Teens Organisation. parentingadoptedteens@gmail.com
AGM & Conference coming right up!
Hello all you MEMBERS and those of you who sign post people to our group (thank you!) We have got a poster here for our November conference. We have decided to have a longer day conference so we have space to fit in our superb speakers and engage you all in some really popular topics.
If you are an adoptive parent of a young person and would like to become a member and come to our conference and AGM, please email parentingadoptedteens@gmail.com and do a meet up and pay £15 subs. Most of our day to day support in via our private hidden Facebook group. We give kindness gifts and warmly encourage, support and share our peer learned knowledge. It really is a very special group.
The AGM and Conference is based in central Birmingham and all members are welcome. Please contact us at parentingadoptedteens@gmail.com for further details.
Welcome all Parents of Teens, Adopted in the UK
We are a UK based group of parents who have adopted our children from the looked after system in the past 20+ years. All of our teenagers are incredible survivors who need specialist parenting which can be very hard going. Despite dealing with some heavy subjects, we like to meet socially and have a bit of relaxation with other parents who understand what we are facing. These pages are by way of an introduction to our group, our aims and an overview of what we do. We accept families with adopted children, teens and young people but our focus is supporting parents through the teenage years. Our group is a not for profit organisation committed to this community. We promote (and try) to follow therapeutic principles (in depth document HERE.)
Here is a brief (not exclusive) list of things POTATO group do.
- Demonstrate kindness to fellow adoptive parents of adopted young people in the UK by face to face, email and the private facebook facilities.
- Share our considerable expertise in areas such as housing, specialist schools/ colleges, mental health problems, therapy, addictions and other difficulties traumatised young people often bring into our lives.
- Several members are active in promoting good practice ideas and presenting to local and national authorities.
- Actively encourage “self care” within the membership, encouraging good physical and mental wellbeing in parents.
- Train & support volunteers and develop financially so we can cover volunteer expenses.
- Offer training to social care, education, social and health groups in life lived with adopted teens with practical strategies.
- Provide national events of interest for Parents of traumatised young people.
POTATO Arts day.
Every year, we have a couple of days break from looking after our traumatised adopted young people.
In the team of POTATO we have some talented artists, caring compassionate and fun individuals. We have all lives life with traumatised adopted young people and all genuinely knowledge the score.
So, we have an Arts Day. There’s a meal out all together the night before and it’s a relaxed and supportive group.
This year we have been focusing on designing a ‘Self Care Island’.
Here are a selection of collages and paintings our POTATO creatives made!
If you would like to know more about being in a POTATO arts day and joining up because you have traumatised adoptees, please email parentingadoptedteens@gmail.com
New publication from SG&AT.
We have been really impressed by the recent publication by Special Guardians and Adopters Together. For those who don’t know, we work with this organisation a lot to help give an honest picture of modern adoption.
Several of our members are also members of this other group and have contributed to this very interesting publication. Apparently, there is going to be one every quarter and we will be keen to see their next piece.
We especially liked the friendship and support section. But the charity details are also helpful and the insight into the position of Special Guardians.
Here is the link online.
Here is a PDF version you can download.
When your adopted teen has a sudden change of staff.
We have a great deal of parents of traumatised adopted teens who struggle at school. Their troubles are often to do with the ways school run and how tricky things can be to negotiate when you have had a lot of early traumas, prior to adoption.
One of our adoptive parents has written a really helpful, insightful piece on how it is for our adoptive young people facing staff changes in school.
It can be a HUGE problem.
This short piece from the adopted young persons point of view, covers many of the reasons why.
Reflections on Adoption.
This is an article written for professionals and adoptive parents to use to inform themselves about a way forwards. We think there are some problems within adoption that need addressing.
It is written by one of our members, based on many years of adoptive parenting. This individual has experience of birth parenting too, and so knows how very different the experiences of parenting are.
Have a look through the article and see if you agree with the questions posed. What would you say are the issues that need addressing within modern UK adoption?
What every social worker should know working with adoptive parents.
Over in POTATO group we have a lot of families involved with social workers.
Even when the adoption order is through it’s very clear that families need support from professional people who can access relevant help for our traumatised young people and their families. Sadly, our experiences of services often fall short and at times catastrophically so for our family lives. Our traumatised adopted teens get very badly effected.
There’s a few total diamonds in the service, I’m a committee member of POTATO writing to you today and I can name a few. We would like to see the standards raised to excellent across the board helping post adoptive families.
Every now and again, we come across something that resonates so loudly with our collective experiences that we want to share it.
This is a piece published here with permission of the author (yes, we asked!)
Essential reading for anyone involved in post adoption, especially social workers.
